Comfort

My friend and her husband are burying their 18 month-old daughter today. This candle is in memoriam of the life of Ryann. I am praying that my friends will experience the comfort and peace that only Jesus can give when we face a loss like this.

‎"Through all our trials we have a never-failing Helper. He does not leave us alone to struggle with temptation, to battle with evil, and be finally crushed with burdens and sorrow. Though now He is hidden from mortal sight, the ear of faith can hear His voice saying, Fear not; I am with you .... I have endured your sorrows, experienced your struggles, and encountered your temptations. I know your tears; I also have wept. The griefs that lie too deep to be breathed into any human ear, I know. Think not that you are desolate and forsaken. Though your pain touch no responsive chord in any heart on earth, look unto Me, and live. 'The mountains shall depart, and the hills be removed; but My kindness shall not depart from thee, neither shall the convenant of My peace be removed, saith the Lord that hath mercy on thee.'Isaiah 54:10." - The Desire of Ages, p. 483.

Counting My Blessings...11

Continuing on with my counting of blessings and things I am thankful for, I would like to add number 11.

11. Naptime

Counting My Blessings...1-10

A friend of mine was diagnosed with throat cancer in January of this year. On her blog, she has written a list of 1,000 blessings, or things she is thankful for. I think I will do the same, only this will be an ongoing list, that doesn't end at just 1,000. Here is a small start:

1. Jesus

2. A husband better than what I deserve

3. Two great daughters

4. Laughter

5. Fireflies in Thailand (makes it feel more like home)

6. Meeting someone and just knowing that they're a friend

7. Divine appointments

8. Mosquito-eating geckos

9. Clean sheets

10. God's mercies that are new every morning.

I Love My Husband

I was just thinking about how great a guy my husband is and how much I love him. So, since he is the father of our children, I think he's relevant to my blog.

Tragedy

Please excuse me for writing about something other than my children. This is really on my heart tonight...

I wonder what the average age of a person is when they experience their first completely devastating loss. In my life, I have experienced a lot of loss. I don't know what the most devastating one was. I do remember the most recent one, and that was an episodic event in my life. I was 26 years old. Other losses, that are older and have had more time to heal don't seem so terrible as the most recent one, but they were devastating at the time that they happened.

Just recently, there has been much tragedy. In the news, in the lives of my friends, everywhere around us there is immense suffering as people suffer loss of loved ones, livelihood, homes, pets, and security. It is appalling to witness.

What do we do when we are faced with tragedy? Of course, there are the five stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. How do we get through these stages though? I guess that depends on if we were prepared or not...

What do I mean? How do we prepare for the tragedies that come upon us unexpectedly and suddenly? Let me just say that when I suffered my latest loss, I wasn't ready for it. But I was able to trust in the love of Jesus. In my time of deepest sorrow and suffering, I knew that He was right beside me weeping. He held me in his arms. He knew EXACTLY what I was going through. My relationship with Jesus prepared me to face the tragedy that came into my life. I knew that He had been beside me up until then, and that He would be with me through it.

I pray for all that are suffering loss now: The many people who have been affected by tornadoes, floods and other natural disasters. My friends who just lost their 18 month old daughter suddenly. Another friend who was diagnosed with throat cancer at the beginning of this year. Friends whose sister-in-law has just been diagnosed with a brain tumor. So much loss. So much suffering. So much tragedy.

I pray that all those who mourn would be comforted by Jesus. "Weeping may last for a night, but joy comes in the morning." Psalm 30:5

Child Training

Recently I've been reading a book called Raising Kids Who Hunger For God. Also, I am part of a group of moms on Facebook that I asked a question of recently. I asked, "Who believes in using the "rod of correction?" The answers I received from the other mothers in this group made me think about how we look at child training these days.

First of all, I am a Christian Seventh-Day Adventist. I believe in following the Bible in all areas of life. I believe it when the Bible says, "All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness." 2 Timothy 3:16 Teaching, rebuking, correcting and training sounds like child-rearing to me. Isn't that what we do with our little ones every day?

What else does the Bible have to say? Let's take a little look...

"He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him." Proverbs 13:24

"Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him." Proverbs 22:15

"The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to itself disgraces his mother." Proverbs 29:15

"Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father? If you are not disciplined (and everyone undergoes discipline), then you are illegitimate children and not true sons. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it." Hebrews 12:7-9

"No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it." Hebrews 12:11

The question that I have is why do Bible following people seek the world's input on how to train their children. When I asked that question about the "rod of correction" on the mother's group page on Facebook, the number one recommended source of child-training guidance was The Supernanny. Nobody believes in the "rod of correction." One source on the Internet said that Jewish and Christian scholars are trying to "explain away" the mention of the "rod of correction" in the book of Proverbs. Some just throw it out entirely. Our culture has watered down godly parenting, and even Bible following parents have fallen for it.

Who has more children, God or Supernanny? Who has been around longer? Who is wiser and more loving? Who can see the bigger picture? Who should I trust my children to?

 Is there a biblical way to discipline our children? Yes, there is! The God of the Bible does not change. He is the same now as He was in the New Testament and He was the same in the New Testament as He was in the Old Testament. He never changes. His ways of disciplining, therefore, do not change either. In His Word, he has shown us ways to train our children. If we would see our children trained in righteousness, we must follow the Word of God.

Our commitment to the Bible and the Bible only should encompass all of our lives, including how we raise our children. The book that I mentioned at the very beginning, Raising Kids Who Hunger For God, is an amazing, Bible-based book that I have really been blessed by reading. I would recommend it to anyone who is seeking to follow God's method of child training and discipling.

May God bless us all, and our children, as we seek the best way to raise them to be workers for Him. May we see them give their hearts and lives to Him.

When I Woke Up This Morning...

This morning was pretty normal. I spent a lot of time feeding Haven through the night, but woke up when Hope called at around seven. I went in to her room and curled up under her blanket while she played for a while. Then she went in to our room and read to Robbie for a little bit. I got up and fed Haven again. After Robbie fed Hope breakfast, we showered and got dressed.

When I woke up this morning, I had a list of things that I wanted to get done today, and so Hope, Haven and I set out to run errands. I don't go out alone with the two girls very often, and today I remembered why. It is very difficult. We survived all of our errand running and returned home all in one piece.

When I woke up this morning, I had lots of plans. But they didn't include one of the family dogs dying. When the girls and I returned from running our errands, Robbie's parents were in the process of taking their dog, Louise, to the veterinarian to see what could be done for her. She wasn't moving very much, but still breathing and responsive. At the vet, they drew her blood and the results showed that her liver had shut down. Her temperature was higher than 106*F. They gave her fluids and she came back home with an IV.

After we tucked Hope in bed, I went in to check on her and she was kneeling on her bed with her hands folded. I asked her what she was doing and she said, "I'm praying for her to get better." I told her that Louise is very old and that she might die tonight. I asked if she wanted to pray with me, and she prayed, "Thank you for making 'Louise' better and give her a hug."

A few hours after she returned home, Louise's breathing was agonal and she was barely responsive at all. Robbie's parents took her to a 24 hour vet but she died on the way there.

Louise was a sweet dog. She lived a long life. She was always gentle and loving. I have never had a dog of my own, but it was heartbreaking to watch Louise as she was dying. I just wanted to sit there and pet her until she died. I know that if I die of old age, I want someone there to hold my hand. I believe that all living things appreciate having someone there with them as they die. It would be more sad to die alone.